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What's looking at porn have to do with my relationship? You'd be surprised!

by Kathryn Wenzel on 05/31/18

The Devastating Factors of Porn

     What is pornography?

We are not just talking about the Supreme Courts definition of Pornography.  Pornography includes thinking about underwear ads, Victoria Secret magazines, Sports Illustrated Swim Suit issue, the Sears Catalog or even National Geographic.  Today we are faced with the Internet that has over 500 million pornographic web sites, each consisting of multiple photos and/or graphic video sex scenes.  All of this is accessible to anyone by computers, cell phones and almost any electronic devices with internet capability.

  Problems with Pornography

 The active almost compulsive attraction to pornography, for some, this activity may last for hours; others may be cycling through binges, many developing a habit of several times a week.

 

    1.  Biological Components

    2.  Psychological Aspects

3.  Chemical Reactions

 

  Biological:

 1.  Developing nero-pathways connected to the pleasure center of the brain.

 2.  Developing dependence when stress develops in everyday life situations.

 3.  Three major chemicals are utilized in a form of self medication.

 4.  Ongoing and/repetitive behaviors develop a trained response.

 5.  Extremely difficult to stop without addressing this component.

 Psychological:                             

1.  Developing an attachment, (false intimacy) with the fantasy person / world

2.  Over period of many years, this becomes our oldest, bestest, trusted friend.

3.  The ability to secrete epinephrine into blood stream increases.

4.  Sexual intimacy decreases because your partner is not your desired or preferred fantasy sexual object.

5.  Over shadows our thoughts through-out the day, creating problems at home and work.

 Chemical:

Three extremely powerful chemicals play an intricate part in this dynamic.

 1.      Epinephrine:  This chemical is secreted into the blood stream and we receive a chemical high from sexually charged images.

2.    Endorphins:  This chemical washes over the brain, removing emotional discomfort for a period of time.

3.    Enkephalins:  This chemical is 3 to 4 times stronger than morphine, hence the intensity of the orgasm.

 Imprinting occurs into the brain of whatever we are viewing at the time of the orgasm whether it's a live person, an air-brushed perfected image or an inanimate object. Regardless of which of these it is, it is NOT your spouse, so each time you masturbate to the other images you form "sex glue" to that other image and NOT your spouse.  This creates an appetite and desire for what/who you are glued to, NOT your spouse which can create lack of arousal,  ED, or inability to orgasm with your spouse.

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