Kathryn L. Wenzel
LCSW
Owner and clinical social worker. Her specialties include arrested development, sexual addiction, intimacy anorexia, parenting, women's issues, grief, and co-dependency.
Marriage, family, and Deep Origin in North Idaho
Counseling and coaching for the hard things.
Marriage in trouble. A couple that has become roommates. A pattern you cannot outrun on your own. We start with the relationship, work at the root, and use Deep Origin when it helps you see yourself and your partner clearly.
- Founded in 2002
- 83% success rate over 20+ years
- Free consultation call
- Two counselors in the room
- Deep Origin certified facilitator
Our promise
Clarity. Direction. Lasting change.
Serving North Idaho since 2002
Military OneSource and TRICARE network provider
Confidential, licensed counselors
Online across the U.S. and worldwide
Where we can help
Start with the relationship.
Most people reach us because a marriage is in trouble. We also work with the partner who found out, the person carrying old pain, and the family trying to hold together. Addictions come after the relationship, because that is usually what keeps them going.
Marriage & couples
Communication, affairs, trust, conflict, and the intimacy that has gone quiet.
Explore couples counseling
Betrayal & partner trauma
Support for the partner who found out, and a path through the lies and grief.
Explore partner support
Intimacy anorexia
When closeness feels unsafe, and one or both partners keep pulling away.
Explore intimacy work
Individual & family
Anxiety, grief, parenting, life direction, blended families, and difficult transitions.
Explore individual work
Sexual addiction
Pornography, compulsive behavior, secrecy, and the shame that keeps it going.
Explore sexual addiction
Electronic addiction
Gaming, scrolling, and screens that have taken over sleep, school, work, or family.
Explore electronic addictionAlso available: 3 and 5 day intensives, recovery groups, and online or telephone sessions.
See all servicesDeep Origin Discovery
Understand the person before you fix the pattern.
Deep Origin is a Discovery assessment. It maps how you are wired: your strengths, the way you communicate, what you reach for under stress, and what you need from your partner. Kathy is a certified facilitator, and we read the results together, in session, not as a score sheet.
We use it at the start of couples work, alongside counseling when it helps, and in intensives. Take it before the first session and we begin with a map instead of a guess.
- 1Ask for your invitationWe send your private Deep Origin link after a short call. Your results come to Kathy, not to a public checkout.
- 2Take the assessmentAbout 20 minutes, online, before your first session.
- 3Read it togetherWe walk through your results, and your partner's, then build the plan.
Kathy Wenzel, LCSW, is a certified Deep Origin facilitator.
The people you will sit with
Two counselors. One room when it helps.
Rob and Kathy Wenzel are married, licensed, and have worked side by side for more than 20 years. For some couples sessions they meet with both partners together, so nothing important gets lost between two separate appointments.
Robert B. Wenzel
MA, LCPC
Clinical professional counselor with more than 37 years of experience. His specialties include marital conflict, pornography and electronic addiction, sexual addiction, and family issues.
Published authors, seminar leaders, and parents of four adult children and a teen.
Meet Rob and Kathy3 day and 5 day intensives
A focused reset for a marriage in crisis.
An intensive gives you something ordinary sessions cannot: time. We meet each day, get underneath the crisis, create a recovery plan for your situation, and give you resources you can use when you go home.
- Counselor-led, one on one or with both partners in the room
- A plan built for your marriage, not a generic workbook
- In person in Bonners Ferry, with online follow up available
Honoring those who served
You served. You should not have to fight for care.
We welcome all civilians, military, and their families. We are a Military OneSource and TRICARE / TriWest authorized network provider, and we serve veterans regardless of ability to pay.
Watch and learn
Start with the patterns underneath the behavior.
Our videos explain arrested development, the cycle of love, survival rules, and the ideas that shape our work with couples and individuals.
Arrested Development Basics
6 minutes
Arrested Development
1 minute
ACE, The Art of Redirection
8 minutes
Survival Rules
2 minutes
Twelve videos and counting, with more on YouTube.
All videosQuestions people ask first
Before you call.
Straight answers to the things couples ask us on the phone, from what the difference is between counseling and therapy to how we handle faith in the room.
What is the difference between couples therapy and marriage counseling?
Marriage counseling usually means work on a marriage: conflict, trust, and the daily habits of living together. Couples therapy is the wider term, for any two people in a relationship, married or not, who want to understand their patterns and improve how they communicate. We do both, and we will tell you plainly which one fits what you are describing.
Do we have to be married, or religious, to come in?
No. We work with engaged couples, dating couples, and couples who are not sure where this is going. Our faith shapes how we work, and we welcome people of any faith or none. Nobody gets a sermon.
What does Deep Origin actually involve?
A short online assessment, taken before your first session, that maps your strengths, your communication, and what you need from a relationship. We read the results with you, in session, and use them to guide the work.
Fees, insurance, Military OneSource, online sessions, and more.
All questionsYou do not have to keep living this way.
Tell us what is happening. We will reply within one business day with next steps.