Kathryn L. Wenzel
LCSW
Owner and clinical social worker. Her specialties include arrested development, sexual addiction, intimacy anorexia, parenting, women's issues, grief, and co-dependency.
Counseling & coaching in North Idaho
Real help for the hard things.
Marriage, family, addiction, and the patterns you cannot outrun on your own. We work at the root, with clear direction and practical tools, in person in Bonners Ferry or online anywhere.
- Founded in 2002
- Free consultation call
- Two counselors in the room
- In person and online
Our promise
Clarity. Direction. Lasting change.
Serving North Idaho since 2002
Military OneSource and TRICARE network provider
Confidential, licensed counselors
Online across the U.S. and worldwide
Where we can help
Start with what is not working.
You may be trying to save a relationship, break a habit, or understand why the same pain keeps returning. We will help you name it and find the next right step.
Marriage & couples
Communication, affairs, trust, conflict, and the intimacy that has gone quiet.
Explore couples counseling
Individual & family
Anxiety, grief, parenting, life direction, blended families, and difficult transitions.
Explore individual work
Sexual addiction
Pornography, compulsive behavior, secrecy, and the shame that keeps it going.
Explore sexual addiction
Betrayal & partner trauma
Support for the partner who found out, and a path through the lies and grief.
Explore partner support
Intimacy anorexia
When closeness feels unsafe, and one or both partners keep pulling away.
Explore intimacy work
Electronic addiction
Gaming, scrolling, and screens that have taken over sleep, school, work, or family.
Explore electronic addictionAlso available: 3 and 5 day intensives, recovery groups, and online or telephone sessions.
See all servicesA deeper way in
Go to the origin, not just the symptom.
Most people reach us after years of trying harder. The same argument returns. The same habit wins. The same fear decides for you. Willpower alone rarely reaches that place.
Kathy is a certified Deep Origin facilitator. Deep Origin is a structured coaching process that traces today's patterns back to their origin, then builds a practical plan for a different direction. We use it alongside counseling when it fits the work.
- 1See the patternName what keeps repeating, without shame.
- 2Find the originTrace it back to the experience and belief that started it.
- 3Practice a new directionBuild a plan you can use on an ordinary Tuesday.
Kathy Wenzel, LCSW, is a certified Deep Origin facilitator.
The people you will sit with
Two counselors. One room when it helps.
Rob and Kathy Wenzel are married, licensed, and have worked side by side for more than 20 years. For intensives and some couples sessions, they meet with both partners together, so nothing important gets lost between two separate appointments.
Robert B. Wenzel
MA, LCPC
Clinical professional counselor with more than 37 years of experience. His specialties include marital conflict, pornography and electronic addiction, sexual addiction, and family issues.
Published authors, seminar leaders, and parents of four adult children and a teen.
Meet Rob and Kathy3 day and 5 day intensives
A focused reset for a marriage in crisis.
An intensive gives you something ordinary sessions cannot: time. We meet each day, get underneath the crisis, create a recovery plan for your situation, and give you resources you can use when you go home.
- Both counselors in the room, working with both partners
- A plan built for your marriage, not a generic workbook
- In person in Bonners Ferry, with online follow up available
Honoring those who served
You served. You should not have to fight for care.
We welcome all civilians, military, and their families. We are a Military OneSource and TRICARE / TriWest authorized network provider, and we serve veterans regardless of ability to pay.
Watch and learn
Start with the patterns underneath the behavior.
Our videos explain arrested development, the cycle of love, survival rules, and the ideas that shape our work with couples and individuals.
Arrested Development Basics
6 minutes
Arrested Development
1 minute
ACE, The Art of Redirection
8 minutes
Survival Rules
2 minutes
Twelve videos and counting, with more on YouTube.
All videosYou do not have to keep living this way.
Tell us what is happening. We will reply within one business day with next steps.